A Good Relationship is built on great deal of Give & Take on both sides

We humans are social beings. Man is dependent on nature right from his birth till death. We prefer to live in a society in order to fulfill various mental, physical and emotional needs.

Among all the animals in the world, humans occupy the topmost position as we are blessed with two fabulous things i.e sixth sense and ability to communicate. We are considered as most intelligent species.

You can see how we have evolved since ages. I mean, like other animals we also had a beautiful environment, clean air to breathe, fresh fruits, vegetables and nuts to eat directly from plants and mineral enriched pure water to drink from rivers, lakes, ponds etc and that was pretty enough for the survival of human beings too.

But we didn't stop there, instead invented many things like vehicles, internet, fabrics, machines, gadgets, medicines etc with great intelligence. We can never see this evolvement in any other species.

Have you seen any dog, cat, lion, elephant, crow, parrot etc living the way we are now? Till date, for animals survival means just that survival. Inspite of so many achievements and intelligence we humans love to socialize rather than being in isolation.

We need someone to communicate with,each and every little things we do in our life. So many inventions, discoveries, luxuries but still we feel incomplete. Here comes the wonderful relations to make us feel complete and it also plays a key role in fulfilling the social needs of a human - Mother, father, brother, sister, friends, wife, husband, grandparents, son, daughter, neighbours, relatives, colleagues etc.

Relationships can be the strength as well as weakness of any person. Let me explain how important and valuable a relationship is.

Have you heard any person committing suicide since he didn't get a Rolex watch, BMW car or an i-phone? But you might have definitely heard news about a person committing suicide because of certain issues in his relationship. We naturally become close to certain person and it is essential for the emotional well-being of a person. Relationships are important for survival, but then too we can see many people not valuing the relations at times and then regret later after losing them.

sometimes problems arise in relationships due to misunderstandings, anger, stress, ego or when you don't value or respect a person. Depression take over a person if he/she is deprived of love and care from certain people he/she loves the most.

It's really important to build a positive relationship with people around us. By doing so our life will become complete, happy and healthy. It really matters how you make others feel in a relation because people will forget what you give them, people will also forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel throughout their life. Each and every relations have different expectations. But at times, we can't fulfill each one of them but definitely we can take a little time every day and do something that will make them feel good, or simply sit and talk with them. When you do so, relationships improve and you feel supported, supportive and connected. Be kind and grateful. Good communication is the key to solve every problem in relationship. It is good to discuss about what the problem is and putting efforts to solve it.

It may happen some will raise their voice, but mind yourself, that you never put any harsh words during heated discussions since it can take the relation towards a wrong turn.

You all might have witnessed this in your lifetime that when you are angry, you attack someone so badly with words and when situation calms down you regret later saying, "I should have not spoken this way." But by the time the situation must have worsened.

Relationships are like thread, we must handle it with extreme care. It can be easily broken with a jerk but it cannot be strengthened back the same way it was before as there will always be a knot in between which can never take you from one end to the other smoothly the way it did earlier. Question arises what we can do to maintain a good relationship with people around us.. I would say, it's not that complicated - just be honest, adjust a little, put some efforts, trust them, respect their boundaries and privacy, stay connected emotionally, compromise a bit, be clear and communicate and I bet you will master the art of maintaining a good relationship with each and every important person in your life.
Let's go through a story which will make you realize how small efforts from your side can help maintain the relationship with anyone.
Lucy was recently married and started living with her husband and in-laws. Lucy's mother-in-law was conservative, whereas Lucy was liberal with modern lifestyle. As days passed, there was lots of differences in their opinions which led to quarrel.

Both started hating each other and turned aggressive day by day. The situation became out of control with each passing day. Unable to take this anymore, once Lucy's husband took his mother's side and this created a dispute between the loving newly married couple. Lucy's mother-in-law took advantage of this situation and tried her level best to create huge rift between the husband and wife, which deteriorated their relation further. Lucy was extremely broken, felt helpless and decided to live with her parents. On the way to home frustrated Lucy planned to get rid of her mother-in-law so that she can live happily with her husband.

Lucy's parents felt pity at her situation but then too they tried to convince her by saying everything will be alright. But Lucy was not in a state of mind to listen to anyone. Lucy's father was a chemist. She pleaded her father to give poison, so that she can give it to her mother-in-law to get rid of her forever. Lucy's father tried to explain her daughter that we both will end up in jail and this is not right thing to do. But Lucy was in no mood to listen. She threatened her father saying if he will not give her posion she will arrange it from somewhere else.

Finally, her father gave in and told her, "Ok, do as you wish but do as I tell you so that you will not end up in jail." Her father brought a bottle filled with powder and told her, "Everyday when you make dinner, just mix a little pinch of this powder in your mother-in-law's meal as the qauntity is less, she will die slowly in few months and people will think she has died naturally." He also told Lucy that, "no one should doubt you, so from today onwards for the next 6 months you will not fight at all with your mother-in-law but instead you will be very caring towards her, even if she says something you don't like, you will not be rude, you will simply be polite."

Lucy agreed, thinking she will be free from her mother-in-law in few months and went back to her in-laws house and as advised by her father she started mixing the poisonous powder in her mother-in-law's meal.

As time passed by, Lucy's mother-in-law's nature also started to change. She observed Lucy being caring and polite towards her. She too started to be affectionate towards Lucy and became lenient. Four months passed and Lucy was still mixing the poisonous powder, but atmosphere of the house changed a lot. There were no quarrels, they both got attached to each other like a mother and daughter. Now Lucy started to worry thinking about what she has been doing to her mother-in-law, she may die soon because of the powder she gave her.

Lucy ran to her father's home and told him, "Dad! Please give me antidote to cure the effect of that poisonous powder you gave! I don't want to lose my mother-in-law, she is just like my mom and now I love her very much."
Her father smiled and said - "Which poison? I had simply given you sugar powder mixed with some vitamin enriched herbal powder in it. I did this to make you understand each person is different, we must try to understand each other and adjust a little to make a healthy relationship. Also it is our duty to keep calm for sometime when such differences arise in a relationship."

* Always remember that relationship never dies a natural death, they are murdered by ego, misunderstandings, attitude and ignorance.

* A relationship should be a balance between two people. One person shouldn't be giving, while the other is only taking.

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